Goodbye 2010

So its 7:48pm and forever the last day of 2010. Thank God!! Im am so overjoyed for this year to be over its unreal.
While I know life has its curves, ups & downs, however you want to see it, this year was a tough one for me. And while at the end of the day Im a stronger person, I also am still stressed out just thinking of all the things I went through! And all the people I lost, some deceased, and others who I just had to let go of. One thing I am proud of is not having that many regrets this year. I know a lot of people who are looking back on their year and say "oh, i shouldnt have done this, or if I would have done that then things would be different"..but not me. If things werent supposed to play out the way they did then they wouldnt have. Its as simple as that, and all the time you spend wishing things were different is wasting time on the "right now" and what you can be doing in the present..im not preaching lol just a thought..
I wont make this long, because like a lot of other people in the world Ive got plans tonight! So whatever you do have fun and be safe! Lets start this new year off right!
In love and style
lexii

2011 New Year Resolutions

So its that time of year again!!
Egg Nog, Mistletoe, Sales at your favorite stores and lets not forget those good 'ol New Year resolutions many of us fail to stick to after January 1st. For 2011 Im so determined to get so much accomplished, including sticking to my own resolutions! All it takes is discipline and patience, as does a lot of things in this world.
Here are my 8 New Year Resolutions for 2011:

1. Natural Hair!! I have never had anything chemically done to my hair(perms, relaxers, color, nothing) but I DO straighten my hair with a flat iron and blow dry it like everyday. Although I love my natural curls I along with everyone who knows me has grown accustomed to me with straight hair, and Im not afraid to admit not having my hair straigtened FREAKS ME OUT!! But 2011 is a new year and i need a new hairstyle! So curls it is!!
2. Facebook only THREE times a week!! I am guilty of falling asleep being on facebook and waking up to turning my alarm off and opening my browser only to see whats happened in the cyber world while ive been asleep! Not only is it a distraction, but I really have better things to do with my time anyway.
3. Stop biting my nails!! I have always bitten my nails, and yes theres been times Ive stopped, for a week or so, but this time I really have to stop! Not only because I want healthy looking nails but because of GERMS too! ew!
4. GO TO EVERY CLASS!! This semester I have 8 classes(18 credit hours) and cant stay in my dorm when life pisses me off, in the long run its only hurting me, and flushing money down the drain, money that I already dont have! So bedtime by 11 and no going home for a week if classes arent cancelled! And STUDY!!
5. Save money!!!!!!!!!! I know that I need to save, but heres the thing, Im a fashion major, so its only appropriate that I love buying shoes/clothes/things that look 'super cute' that I REALLY DONT NEED!! And living on your own isnt cheap especially in bigger cities! So once I get a job (because I will have a job this semester!) I will save 75% of every check! The rest can be used for the things I DO NEED at that time, instead of having to call my mommy.
6. Stop Cursing!! I curse like a sailor, and Im not ashamed to admit it. I cant tell you why, but I know I should learn to use better words and save the bad ones for when I really need to vent, thats fair enough.
7. Church on a regular basis!! Im not the biggest christian in the world, nor am I a Jesus Freak(no offense to those who are), but I do know that reading my bible and going to church reminds me to treat others how Id want to be treated and I wont forget to mention keeps my temper to a minimum, and I know I will need that this semester since its only inevitable Ill be stressed due to my 18 credit hours.
8. Rec at least THREE times a week!! I already know Ive gained hella weight since ive been at school and get a reminder everytime I go to put clothes on and cant fit them. So, this semester I need ti get my diet in check and make sure im at the rec center at least three times a week, even if it is by myself, though it would be nice to have a workout buddy (:

Who is this girl in the sweater?

As you may have noticed my blog is called "the girl in the sweater", and you may have wondered where the name came from? and who is she?
Well, "the girl in the sweater" is me. Growing up my friends always noticed i would wear a sweater like everyday to school and out of school. I have always had a love sweaters! Especially really cute ones! I fell comfortable in them and I think they make me look good. But, before I was into how I looked in them, the sweater to me was my security blanket. I was always shy and in elementary school never had the best of confidence in myself. So to me, wearing a sweater made me feel like I was invisible and that maybe people didn't notice me, because I didn't want to be noticed. My ex-boyfriend would always kind of make fun of me for wearing sweaters, even now! And although I look back and now realize wearing sweaters when its 80 degrees out may not have been the best idea, it was much more to me than what people thought. The sweater represents the girl that I was, and now the woman I'm becoming. No matter what things I may accomplish in life, who I meet, how much money I make, I feel as if the sweaters I wear keep me grounded. One day when I'm successful I want people to say I'm the same girl Ive always been, and don't want to change because I may be making more money, and seen in magazines. The sweater is a reminder to me of who I am and where I came from.

stay gorgeous,
lexii

When I Grow Up.

So, I know that our economy sucks right now. And I know that not everyone who wants to become famous, or a celebrity achieves that. Everyone knows that. One thing I know I will accomplish is becoming an internationally known fashion designer. And I love my family and friends for supporting me and my aspirations because is by no means is it going to be easy. You always hear how the fashion industry is so cut throat, Im prepared for that, Ive already gotten a taste being at college lol. What I dislike, and the point of this post, is how people are quick to tell me that I need a back-up plan. Or give me that "why the hell does she want to do that" look when they ask what my major is. Would you rather my response be "my major is prostitution, or drug dealing" ? Ever since I was little Ive had in my mind that I could grow up and do anything that I wanted to do. And thats exactly what im doing, what I want to do!! I take advice from people and appreciate it, some I listen to and some I dont but at the end of the day it is my life to live. Its just the biggest problem I have is the lack of respect I get, from people who would much rather I become a doctor or a Pastor or something. I dont like studying all that much which is a reason I decided not to go to med school, but also because I have a 'passion for fashion'. Instead on being so shocked about what I want to do with my life look back on yours, because Im sure a lot of you arent working at a job you LOVE, Im not trying to be disrespectful or a smartass in any way. Its just the way I see it. And for those of you girls (guys too), who are majoring in fashion or anything else out there and dont have anyone who really believes that you can do it, I encourage you to read 'If You Have to Cry Go Outside' by Kelly Cutrone. Its an absolutely amazing book that taught me that even if I didnt have anyone supporting me and my dreams, oh well, one day ill be able to say "I told you so"...my mom always tells me she doesnt care if I was pursuing a degree in scooping poop! As long as I have some kind of goals in life and put my mind to acheiving them and wanting more out of life then she'll be proud of me. And I love her for that! I also hope that in some way my blog can give you that drive to do what you felt you were called to do in life! And even if you dont completely know what you want, try things out to find out what it is, dont just sit and wait for it to come to you, life waits for no one.

In love and style
lexii

Book Club

So a few weeks ago when I was having a conversation with my grandma and she let me know she had begun going to a book club in town. She sounded really excited about, and even I was excited because I love reading books! Not many people my age read for leisure so I like to consider that something different about me! So, anyhow she began telling me about the first book they read titled, The Other Wes Moore. This book is a true story about two African American men who grew up in the same neighborhood, and share the same name, though took two very different paths in life. One was a man is now serving a life sentence in jail for involvement in a robbery that ended in the murder of a police officer, and the other became a Rhodes Scholar, and served in war, along with many other successes as a public figure. I havent updated my blog in a while, and its late right now otherwise I would go into detail about the book lol . But I am encouraging you to read it. It shows how just the simplest mistakes, and ignoring advice from those who have been in similar situations as us (which us young people love to do, lets admit it lol) can either lead a to a positive or negative path. I am all about living my own life and wanting to learn from the mistakes I made but there are some times when I get advice from a person and I know I should listen to it. And, it doesnt have to be a person in my life, I take a lot of "tips for life" from books that I read or an article I see come across online. There are so many people who make excuses and say that they made mistakes because they didnt have any positive figures in their lives. Honestly, I think thats crap, if I were one of those people I would look for someone positive to be in my life instead of in a way, feeling sorry for myself. But thats just my opinion. Anyway, I encourage you to read the book! It really is an easy read and once you do post your opinion on it! I dont want to give too much away!

stay gorgeous,
lexii

just a light opinion on celebs and the media

So recently there has been talk about how Jesse James allegedly had multiple affairs while married to wife, Sandra Bullock. Now let me start by saying he isnt the first man to cheat on his wife and as sad as it is he wont be the last, so when i heard about this story i said to myself whothefuckcares. Not only because i really dont care but because im sure no one else cares either. i mean unless your paparazzi or a journalist who prides his or her self on celebrity gossip i guarantee you dont wake up every morning going "hmm wonder whos been cheating on their spouse today?" Yes we are all guilty of buying a gossip magazine but who can blame us they make for a good read during doctor visits and then you can recycle them. But let me get to my point.
Whether Jesse James is a celebrity or not him cheating on his wife should not be the highlight story of Extra or Entertainment Tonight nor the cover of People or whatever else magazine. Sometimes the media needs to back off an realize that these are peoples peronal lives they are putting out there, yes they are in the spotlight but that is a very personal matter because at the end of the night you arent the one going home with these people. Some lines werent meant to be crossed.At the end of the day you go home to your family and go on with your life as they do with theirs.
Now, while I have sympathy for celebs, I also blame them for constantly complaining about how awful the media is but they agree to do very private interviews which brings me back to Jesse James who i saw on tv today, doing an interview about the his infidelity. For people like him i dont really feel sorry for, dont bitch about being bothered by paparazzi when you sit and do an interview about a matter that has nothing to do with the rest of the world but everything to do with your wife and new baby. my advice? stop talking to cameras and start talking to Sandra and try to work on what relationship you guys may have left and if anything do it for Louis. best of luck!
and for the record nothing against mr.james just thought id use him as an example!
stay gorgeous <3
lexii

an opinion and also my very first post (:

todays society seems so different than it was when i was just a little one which wasnt that long ago...especially kids.i mean is it just me or is everyone nowadays trying to become a rapper?! it really seems as if little kids went from dressing up as doctors and lawyers to dressing like wayne and jayz overnight. dont get me wrong theres nothing wrong with that i have a lot of i mean respect for musicians and im all about following your dreams but as we all know theres a life after the fortune and fame whether we live that life or we see it on tv and in the magazines. Some people think they can just make it big, get money and live happily ever after. While in a way that could be true it isnt that simple. And alll who have money arent happy otherwise you wouldnt see them getting whisked off to rehab centers..but thats beside the point..musicians do more than make it big and spend money. most write amazing music that people can relate and identify with, give back to charities and their communites, offer advice to upcoming artists you know all that good stuff. But more and more i see them move into other projects.

For example Beyonce, we all love her whether you want to admit it or not. She is known for her amazing voice and while she also is an actress too she has a perfume and also her clothing line which has become rather popular, which are other things she can continue working on when she decides to put down her mic. This goes for any celebrity though and i think its a good life lesson that youve gotta have a backup plan. Another example is one of my favorite supermodels, Tyra Banks. She was on the cpver of several magazines and walked countless runways and, knowing that wouldnt last forever she has her tv shows Americas Next Top Model, The Tyra Show, the show True Beauty that she did with Ashton Kutcher, and her TZONE camp she does.

Anyway i think you get my point. I really think todays younger generations are getting the wrong message and need someone to let them know its okay to have big dreams but make sure you have a backup plan just in case it turns out that the rich and fanous lifestyle was not what you werent meant to do, there are very many people who dont shop at Saks and attend red carpet affairs who are wealthy and live happy healthy lives. You can always get an education or find something else youre passionate about and make something of it. While I do agree that college isnt for everyone, maybe theres someone or something in college you will me or come across that will inspire you. College is more than a secondary education you know, its an experience.

just remember theres just so many other productive things you can do with your life to make you a better person and the world a better place than being seen on the big screen or winning a grammy.

stay gorgeous <3

lexii